Elizabe✝h
Hi there.

I'm Elizabeth and I
like to write.
I wish I knew
where I was going
Humm

There are certain truths that I live by
One. I am Eilzabethbutwhatsinaname
Two. I seek happinessbutwhatshappinesswithoutsadness
Three. I pursue self-actualizationbutwhatifidontlikewhatifind
Four. I happily owe everything to Jesus Christ, my saviour and my God. I live for You alone.

I like Toronto. I live here.
It's kind of small compared to other cities, I think. Not quite as developed. The subway coverage really sucks.
But I like Toronto. It's urban and vibrant and so diverse. I want to explore it all!

Jane Eyre
The Boy in the Striped Pyjamas
Holes
If Nobody Speaks of Remarkable Things
Le petit prince
The English Patient
The Great Gatsby


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It had always really impressed me. I'd admire those men so much for wearing their rings. How magical (wink wink) and rare it was to find a man like that! 

I guess that was before I realized how commonplace and absolutely mundane it was. 

Because now, everywhere I go, men have rings on their fourth fingers. I've only started to take notice so it's a new idea to me, but I'm pretty sure it's always been like this. Wearing a wedding ring is just a social norm, so much so that nobody else really thinks much of it. 

Except, clearly, for me. 

My father never wears his ring. 

(ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever)

I wonder how my mother might feel. 

Everybody else's husbands wear their rings, proudly showing off their marriage.

Except for hers. 

Obviously, it is not absolutely necessary for him to wear his ring. 

It only becomes troublesome because she does want him to, not that she pesters him about it. 

She's sort of given up. 

If he doesn't want to, he doesn't want to. 

Only... I can't help feeling like he's disrespecting their marriage a bit. 

Yes, it is true that a ring is not completely essential to prove their marriage or his love, but...
If it's considered the "social norm" to do it.. it's sort of expected of you.
[Like for example, when your kid turns four, you send them to kindergarten. No, it is not a necessary step. It is not required of you. But this is just what people do. And you know what? Parents are proud that their kids are in kindergarten.
Ok, a better example would be, when you get married, the woman changes her last name. It is not mandatory for to prove their love. It is just what people do. And the result is that both parties feel a sort of specialness and, of course, feel more united]
Why are you refusing to put a ring on your finger? Why do you object to it?
What is there to object to??

I would imagine that my mother feels quite resentful and pitiable and, well, sad whenever she sees other men happily sporting their wedding rings. Or passively sporting, for that matter.

Do her co-workers talk about her? I think so. Would they ask her questions about it?
"Why doesn't your husband wear his ring?"
"He's probably ashamed/embarrassed of you! Hahaha!"
My mother is too level-headed to honestly let these influence her opinion of her husband and marriage, but I don't think that she has such a heart of iron that these remarks bounce completely off. I'm thinking she's probably further saddened by it and made to languish at her "situation" (if it can even be called that) just a little bit oftener.

Oh, daddy, I wish you'd wear your ring.
It may not be proof of your love, but it most certainly shows it.